Emotional Vampires

Have you ever heard of "emotional vampires"? They are those lovely people that suck things out of you, but never want to give. My ex & his mother are like this. I never understood people like this until I met them.

I talked to him this morning & find it amusing that he thinks just because something is going wrong in my life that he is "sorry" he can't help as if that will make it all better; him being around. Hello, you are an ex for a reason! I actually had to explain that just because my oldest was having problems didn't mean my life sucked. That just because his life sucked, mine didn't. I guess he finds this really irritating. Geeze.

Then he goes on about him living closer to the kids. Now, don't misuderstand that would be a rather responsible thing to do. The problem? He is living with his father because he can't keep out of money trouble with check cashing places. (This is the problem he has had for over 14 yrs.)

He is being sued for damages (our oldest made to his house while he watched him 3 wks.) He ran out on the owners instead of talking to them. I said why didn't you just talk to them, tell them what happened & say you'd work with them to pay it.

So, when will he be able to move closer? He can't even take care of himself.

THEN, the one I had been waiting for.....What will happen to Connor's child support if he goes into foster care. Yup, I was waiting. I wish I could win the lottery & tell him to keep his blasted $. I wish I had no need to have it at all.

Ian thinks I am not "nice" enough. That ticks me off. I know as a Christian I should be nice & I try to be polite. I don't sit at home wasting my time "plotting" against him, I have better things to do than to think of him at all. It is just that his priorities are the same. (The sad part is, his kids know that already too.) He will go weeks without talking to the kids & I am the mean one. Ugh.

And when he isn't on the outs with his "girlfriend" he has no use to talk to me at all & I like those times! This is why I text when I can & never talk on the phone. He gets some weird kick talking to me. I wish he'd marry someone!

On a side note, I need another title than "ex". I don't even like to be linked with him. My kids are the only link. He is more like the "husband that never was". An imaginary friend would have been better!