This is a discussion between my childrens' biology (other 1/2) & myself. My younger son thinks I am mean, but he didn't have to put up with what I did. He had the "kid" version, which, trust me, stucks too.
Me: Did you have a question?
(He left a phone msg that he had "things" to discuss with me.)
Me: Like what?
Biology Said: about our account and defaulting on check cashing places so they will let me make payments. but it will not effect your child support payment. I will however have a number of nsf $35 fees. I have to have your opinion of this matter. I have to explain it.
Me: I have no opinion on your money problems. If you want an opinion ask Harlyn. (His Dad.) That part no longer concerns me. Was that all?
Biology Said: how is Connor and ian and faith doing?
Me: Ian you just talked to. He is fine. Faith is fine but doesn't want to talk on the phone. I told her she just needed to say hi & tell u how she was but she wouldn't. Connor? Is in El Paso
Biology Said: how is Connor doing and are you going to get him back or have to turn him over to foster care to protect Ian and Faith? I feel for you Sonya..I am sorry that I dont live there to help you out..I am sorry you have to go through this on your own. I know you dont like me..however if you ever need to talk to me without judgement. I will talk with you if you so desire
Me: Without judgement? When did that occur? You don't have to live here to take care of your son. I don't have a choice but to have him out of the house. What choice do I have now? Police were involved I had to have photos of my injuries taken....Your sorrys hold no weight.
(This is the part that Ian said, "You shouldn't have said that. He is like Connor when you push too much." I asked if he didn't think his dad's reponsibilities should be pointed out.)
Biology Said: well i could not give a shit about you and him at all. but for some reason i still do care and if you would share with me what happened instead of holding it all in. You are impossible to deal with. You, like myself create you own problems. I was trying to tell you that I cared about you and that I was having heart felt feelings of support for you. but you throw that in my face and wonder why I cant stand by you now or before. You are stubborn and bull headed as much now as you have ever been. You dont need my support because you are not smart enough to accept it as always you push me aside. Sonya, what do you need from me? tell me and I will try to help..right now I am being sued for damages Connor did to the house we lived in. I am not happy with the situation but I still love Connor no less.
Me: It has to do with your lack of responsibility. Why didn't you just discuss it with them & work on an arrangement? You should have taken him to ER when he ran away but no. It is hard to feel sorry for u when u listen to no one.
Me: I am not IN a mess. I am not being mean. You are in the same $ trouble u have been in since b4 we met.
(OVER 14 YRS AGO.)
Me: Connors illness & youR $ issues are not even in the same ballpark.
Me: Why didn't you ever ask what you could do to help keep him out of foster care? It has been 3 wks since I told you.
Biology Said: At this time with my money situation...I can not help you help him because I am staying with my father and Barb for the winter. Where would Connor stay?
Me: He has to be in a facility right now. Probably quite a while. They can't get him stable. But you didn't even say "I would take him if it could". You have been in "my money situation" for years. When will you not be in it?
Biology Said: every time I get in the black something happens to screw it all up. usually I scew it up but there are other contributing factors.
Me: Life is a contributing factor. But with you it seems like a never ending black hole!
Me: Do you know at 14 he can refuse treatment in the state of NM?
Me: Good thing he wants it huh.
Biology Said: yes good thing he knows he needs it.
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