My Evidence - 21 April 2011

I don't know what makes people just be rude, but every other month or so my ex gets on his high horse & texts me. It is because he is like this I refuse to answer his calls. Here is a conversation we just had. These are the actual texts from my phone.

Jim: Would you please call me when you are able to. I would also like to talk to Ian & Faith if she will talk to me. Thank you. 9:06 AM

Me: What do you want? She gets home @ 3:20. (It may seem rude, but the only reason he texts is to cause trouble or borrow money.)

Jim:  Why will you not talk to me? Is Ian home? Why do you keep things from me about our children? I don't care what you do with your life. I do care about our children & like to be in the loop. 9:14 AM

Me: Then you should call them. They are only your children when you can be bothered. I asked Ian when he talked to you last.....

Jim: You know I find some things strange about you. You don't share any information about the kids or keep me informed. Why is Ian not in school? He will not tall me why? You sent my Dad emails slaming him on his views about Muslims and Gays. Would you have the same opinion if our daughter married a Muslim and was treated like a piece of property and abused with no rights as a women and does your religion condone violance againts other christians who do not believe the same as you. Our freedom of religion beliefs is and will destroy and will destroy this country and christianity will become a outlawed religion someday because of Muslims. By the way have you been though an airport checkpoint lately? Even little old ladies and kids are heavly screened because of the actions of Muslim and their hate for us. Open your eyes. Also would you have the same christian view on gays if you weren't bisexual yourself? I know you dislike me. But you don't have to have a power trip and think you are better then anyone else. I want to be informed about our children. 9:33 AM

Me: You are so full of yourself. I believe passing judgement is God's job not mine. How many Muslims do you know? Don't think you should preach on how to treat a woman in a marriage do you? Anyone can be a terrorist. Visited Ireland lately? Don't like religous freedom leave MY country. May want to ck the Constitution of the US. Not bisexual but if anyone cld turn one it wld be spending so many yrs with you!

Jim:   I will not be in the state and  I did not make you bi..you made that choice and I do believe in freedom of religion in my country however people like you who dont see the perils of such beliefs and see the hate that muslims have toward us.  There will never be peace in the world as long as there is Islam. Also why do now believers effect how we beleive in God and they push their views and opinions on us and keep God from being the foundation of this country.  Freedom of Religion was to worship and to acknowledge God on term of your chooseing.  Not to take God out of society like so many people have.  You can accuse me of all sorts of things and you have a warped sense of selfrightousness about yourself.  YOU PROVE IT EVERYTIME YOU DONT TALK TO ME ON THE PHONE OR KEEP THINGS TO YOURSELF LIKE YOU ARE BETTER THEN ME.

Me: And are you the one Connor is getting in trouble for saying anti type things in his school?


Jim:  no Connor and I do not discuss such things. He has formed his own opinion with no help from me. 10:07 AM

Me:  Why is it more important to say things to me than just calling your kids? I don't get it. You don't upset me any more Jim. So you may as well not bother.


Jim:  Well I didnt push my views on him nor do I share everything that has to do with adult subject matter that childern dont undertsand or comprehend like you like to do.

10:13 AM

Me:  My boys are 14 & 13. They learn from school & tv. Id rather them ask me than reproduce when they shldnt or hurt ppl when they have no right.


Jim:  I am not trying to upset you. I just dont understand your reasoning. You know that you make excuses for Ian and his actions and he is uncontrolable because you have never really held him accountable.  10:15 AM

Me:  What are you on about? Ian is doing well. He is almost off all his meds since Connor is gone. He has been playing bball & losing weight. He does chores. And you don't upset me. -You do this once every other mo or so & frankly you make me laugh. You don't want the kids so it makes you feel better to put me down. Go ahead.


Jim:  I try to call but you all dont answer the phone. They also dont make an atempted to ever call me. Only Connor calls me and I really enjoy hearing from him. He sounds really good and happy. Not down or depressed. Happy and go lucky. 10:19 AM


Me:  Yeah because he lives in lala land. He tells me all is fine too but if it was he wld be home. It is not their job to call you & they don't want to. Ian is at the age where his bb games are more important.


Jim:  why is he not in school? He is so far behind. 10:22 AM
 
Me:  How do you know where he is in school? He is home schooled. He is doing great & very proud of himself.


Jim:  Good to know. I just saw the frustration and stuborness and lack of respect for rules and the inability not to be able to read and the frustration that came with that. I also seen an angry young man who would not listen to reason and would run off and act up. Our sons do not like to be held accountable for their actions. do you have some what of control over him. Or does he do what he wants when he wants? 10:29 AM


Me:  When did they have you to show then responsibility? When did you sit & help them read? When did you show then eating out, sleeping all day, & begging money fromothers wasn't responsible? Where is your self control? My sons are growing up with disabilities what's your excuse? Don't talk to me @ them when you did nothing but leave, return them, & put yourself first.


Jim:  Have a nice day...Thanks for texting me back. Take care of your self and the kids. Good luck with getting your vehicle fixed. 10:33 AM


Jim:  you know thats funny when you make all the money you do and you waste it on frivouls things and borrow from people yourself.  You dont know how to manage money either.  Why is it everytime I come down there.  The kids are in too small of clothes or they have old ratty shoes and need me to buy them clothes that fit.  You blame me for your problems.  You created them yourself.  You marched to the beat of a different drum unlike anyone else on earth.  Highly visible Tattoos are not attractive on a women of selfrespect.  You make things up as you go to suit yourself and your views.  You are not normal and I am not at fault for your actions. You blame me for your lifestyle.  You choose to be the way you are and its your life to do that.  However dont cloud the minds of our children with your way of thinking.  There is no help for you or changing you.  You are who you are by your choice.  I tried to fit into your lah lah land but butted heads with you and was unable to stand you or understand you for that matter.    You are even more screwy then me. 10:51 AM

Me:  Luckily noone that knows me & my kids agree with you. My kids' money goes for them. They do not have things that do not fit hence Ians new size 13 shoes all 4 pairs. I know what your closet is like. My kids love my tattoos & you have them so how can you comment. I don't care what you think of me. You are mean hurtful prejudice & judgemental. I am so glad they are nothing like you!


Me:  I haven't borrowed money from my parents even for moving. You can't say that. You can't even visit your kids. you want to know why they don't call you? Look in the mirror!


Jim:  yeah Hiletr surround himself with 10:57 AM

Me: They deserve the money since they have no real father!


Jim:  yeah Hilter surround himself with people that thought the way he did and killed or externinated those who didnt.. I am a caring kind genorous person that has an open mind. Every one who knows you outside your little circle knows your off your rocker. even Tony says there is no reasoning with you.  11:01 AM

Me:  Glad I am not a Muslim with all that kindness. You contradict yourself. Using my dad doesn't wk either. But keep it up. Perhaps you need some history lessons too.


Jim: oh you make sure that I have nothing to do with our children and know nothing about them. You are the selfish one. They get there goodness from me. You are the one that is not nice. You prove it alot by your actions.  11:03 AM

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Me:  I feel sorry for you that this is all you do with you time besides taking from your parents eating & sleeping. It is not I that am ruining your relationship with the children but you. Sad.


Jim:  They have no real father because you have them so screwed up that no one can handle them or stand to be around you.


Me:  No they don't because they never had one & they do have a great influence in their life & he has never once put me down.


Jim:  he doesnt know the real you..By the way you were kick out of the Navy because of your views and being unable to conform to set standards 11:09 AM
 
Me:  No I wasn't. You don't get an honorable discharge being kicked out. You are a sad person. Perhaps you aught to worry @ you instead of others. You can't seem to handle that.


Okay, so now my son knows about the above texts. Ian called his dad. He told him the things he said to his mom weren't nice. He tried asking his dad a few things like where he was going on the weekend when he couldn't visit him.

Jim said Dick (his mother's husband) is paying. Ian asked again if he was paying any & this time Jim said he was paying some. (Story change.) He asked if fishing was more important than coming to see him & Jim kept skipping over the question. In the end, Ian got upset, called his dad a name I wasn't expecting & hung up. Jim then text this to me.

Jim:  you know that Ian had no right to see those messeges as that was adult material between you and I and he can not comprehend how fucked up you are. He is blind to the truth and will always see your way and your beliefs. There is no help for him. You are warped and should be sharing such information with kids. Your parenting skills are in question. Your of your mind and dont even know it. How dare you let a child talk to an adult like that and call me names. Sonya everyone outside your circle knows the truth about you.  12:00 PM

Me:   Yes & my attorney loves these text messages. Oh by the way...if the name fits.....


Ian took my phone: Hi it is me ian you are a jack ass and get a life you mother fucker

OOP! I about died! You can't condone that!

Jim:  why would you need a lawyer? They say nothing but the truth and if you wernt kick out of the Navy why did you not serve your full term or be let back in when you tried. 12:04 PM

Me:  I know one & he keeps things for me. As for your son he is 5'8 & takes the phone!





There were actually a few more texts threatening me legally. I don't know why. He doesn't want the kids they are too much trouble.  Don't know that they would go to him anyway for long. Maybe his girlfriend dumped him again, I have no clue!
Well, he just text that "Maybe our kids would turn out normal without your influence". Guess that answers that. Wonder what all the x-rays, medications, abnormal EEG's, below average IQ, psychiatrist, psychologists, special ed classes, speech therapy, etc mean.....Silly me!

Who taught him he was better? - 17 April 2011

It would seem that my son's foster mother has has quite a rough couple of weeks. She hurt her arm, losing feeling in her fingers. Luckily now she got meds & physical therapy, but lack of sleep, pain & my son couldn't have helped!

It would seem that my son, Connor, is of the opinion that he is better than everyone else, he is whiter & German.

This wasn't exactly how I thought I may wake to my Sunday morning, but hey, my kids keep you hopping.

I have never in my life raised my children like this. Especially since my home is very Celtic in decor & I work on my family genealogy which we have always known encompases, Austrian, German, Irish, Scottish, English, French, Cherokee & recently another tribe.

The first time I heard a slur from my son was when he was in a facility in KS. I was so surprised since it was against a black person & his friend was black! Before this point I had never heard him speak this way.

However, the fact that he went up to a black teacher last week & asked her how she was there when he was German, white, & better than her, I about had a cow! I couldn't believe my son had talked to someone like that. He has always been respectful unless in a melt down & then quickly remorseful. He apparently has made the comment about mexicans which is also crazy since his best friend here is Hispanic! It makes no sense.

He has no friends according to his foster family, so where is he learning it from? According to the Fmom he came to her like that. He never had any of these issues in school here. He never spoke that way in school here. I am going to check with everyone, but I was never told of such talk. I am also going to talk to his brother & their friends.

I was raised by an ex-nun in a strict Roman Catholic home. I brought my children up Christian. In fact, Connor would be the most religous. It is totally crazy to me.

I spoke to him after & he said everything was "fine". It took me talking directly about it with him. I told him it would stop now. Also told him that he has never been raised like that. He said they pick on him at school & call him a Nazi & I guess he wasn't getting why, so I told him what Nazi's thought about supremecy & what they did to millions of people & asked if he wanted to do that to people. He was crying & said no. I asked if he thought his Grandma, Aunt & Uncle (in heaven) would be proud of him. He said no. I told him the reason he was upset was because he was ashamed. I told him I loved him, but was not proud of his behavior.

I can only hope it helps along with the even stricter measures at home. I love my son & I pray he will understand. Can he? I told him I didn't want him beat up & I certainly didn't want him dead. Told him his brother & sister would want to die if that happened. I hope that may mean something.