It would seem that my son's foster mother has has quite a rough couple of weeks. She hurt her arm, losing feeling in her fingers. Luckily now she got meds & physical therapy, but lack of sleep, pain & my son couldn't have helped!
It would seem that my son, Connor, is of the opinion that he is better than everyone else, he is whiter & German.
This wasn't exactly how I thought I may wake to my Sunday morning, but hey, my kids keep you hopping.
I have never in my life raised my children like this. Especially since my home is very Celtic in decor & I work on my family genealogy which we have always known encompases, Austrian, German, Irish, Scottish, English, French, Cherokee & recently another tribe.
The first time I heard a slur from my son was when he was in a facility in KS. I was so surprised since it was against a black person & his friend was black! Before this point I had never heard him speak this way.
However, the fact that he went up to a black teacher last week & asked her how she was there when he was German, white, & better than her, I about had a cow! I couldn't believe my son had talked to someone like that. He has always been respectful unless in a melt down & then quickly remorseful. He apparently has made the comment about mexicans which is also crazy since his best friend here is Hispanic! It makes no sense.
He has no friends according to his foster family, so where is he learning it from? According to the Fmom he came to her like that. He never had any of these issues in school here. He never spoke that way in school here. I am going to check with everyone, but I was never told of such talk. I am also going to talk to his brother & their friends.
I was raised by an ex-nun in a strict Roman Catholic home. I brought my children up Christian. In fact, Connor would be the most religous. It is totally crazy to me.
I spoke to him after & he said everything was "fine". It took me talking directly about it with him. I told him it would stop now. Also told him that he has never been raised like that. He said they pick on him at school & call him a Nazi & I guess he wasn't getting why, so I told him what Nazi's thought about supremecy & what they did to millions of people & asked if he wanted to do that to people. He was crying & said no. I asked if he thought his Grandma, Aunt & Uncle (in heaven) would be proud of him. He said no. I told him the reason he was upset was because he was ashamed. I told him I loved him, but was not proud of his behavior.
I can only hope it helps along with the even stricter measures at home. I love my son & I pray he will understand. Can he? I told him I didn't want him beat up & I certainly didn't want him dead. Told him his brother & sister would want to die if that happened. I hope that may mean something.
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