Last week I got a call from Connor's foster mother. The insurance is wanting Connor out of treatment foster care. So the FYI counselor wanted a meeting the 6 of February with me & his foster mom to go over "ideas" of what may be next for my son.
That night I sat & cried. When I mentioned to his sister, Faith, about them wanting him out, she said what would seem so simple to many people, "Why? He is getting help there."
You would think. You would think that insurance was designed to help people; especially people who have illnesses. I wonder if John Hyde & the incident in Albuquerque, NM where a mentally ill man went to facilities begging for help, which was refused, went on a shooting rampage, means anything to anyone besides me?
Options? One is to come home. He needs more structure than most homes provide. I get sick several times a month, who will keep constant supervision over him then?
Two, a group home, which may take him. He will be with other males that are older than him & not necessarily as in need of such care.
Three, to hand my son over to the state. They will take over his care. I will have my heart ripped out of my chest as will my children. Can you imagine the abandonment my son will feel?
I called his father crying, not knowing what to do.
If Connor is removed from his school & treatment foster home here is what will happen:
1. They will not complete his testing for Autism & IQ.
2. They will rip him out of a school he has done well in.
3. They will rip him out of a home that provides structure & constant supervision.
4. Once again, when Connor is doing well, he will be taken from all that he is used to & responds well to.
The best thing that has happened since that day was Jim calling to say that he & his fiance are looking into facilites where they live in South Dakota to see if he can be placed there.
I don't know why, but all three of our children thrive when they are raised seperately. They love each other & I hope that won't change, but being together is just not a safe, happy, feasible way for them to live. I hate it. I wonder what went wrong & why. I would rather give up my son to further help, though, than not do what is safe for all three of them.
I know God doesn't give us more than we can bear, but it sure does hurt. I am glad God is there to carry us through.
SMacLeod
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