I have a friend, that has been more than a friend. Her family is my family.
Honestly, I wouldn't want to think of life, my life, without them.
This friend was uncomfortable around my sisters fiance. My sister & her fiance would go over & seem oblivious to manners of time to stay & when to go. It was also uncomfortable because my friend does not know either of them well & they weren't in my company.
It seemed that despite polite comments by myself for them "not to stay long" when picking up my daughter, wasn't getting understood. My sister, who doesn't have any close friends, kept wanting to ask my friend to do things. Being the way she is, my friend is just too kind to say she didn't feel comfortable or didn't want to. It took her years to get rid of a "friend" who would make rude, hurtful comments.
In order to head off any hurt feelings or uncomfortable situations, I thought being frank with my sister was needed. (What wisdom! Ugh.) I explained that my friend was not comfortable around Tess' fiance. I asked my sister not to say anything as I wanted to aviod hurt feelings to her fiance & the discomfort of my friend, but felt this would head off anything in the future.
Imagine my surprise to find that my sister text my friend directly. She wanted to know if it was true. As if I would really make something like this up. Like I am that bored in my life. Well, so much for not making people feel uncomfortable. I was not only totally betrayed by my sister, but what would my friend think to know that a took a conversation she surely felt was safe with me, was not.
I was angry & hurt. I felt surely I lost a friend who had been through so much for me. I sat in my chair & I cried. I don't trust her anymore, which is hard when it is your sister. I also didn't wish to go to see my friend any more either. I felt I had betrayed her friendship. So, this was the second time in less than 2 months that Tess & I have had a huge alteration in our friendship.
Texts:
To Tess - I told you that in confidence. I trusted you. She was my best friend.
Tess - I'm sorry. I'm being told one thing from you and another from kerry. I asked her which was true?? Ur telling me she's uncomfortable and doesn't want us around and she and chris are telling us the opposite? ?? I'm trying to figure out the truth. So I'm sorry. Bill and I will stay away from your friends; I didn't relize I wasn't allowed any friends. I will tell kerry we will stay away and again I am sorry. I always seem to screw everythg up.
Tess D'Arco But one of u is lying to us...and I don't appreciate that...
To Tess - Did you really think she wld tell you she was uncomfortable? She is too nice. That was why I thought I cld tell you that in confidence. Apparrently not.
Tess - The only reason i said anythf to her was becausr shr asured us just yesterday that she wanted to get to know us better. We sat n talked w/ her n she said she had no problem w/ either of us. But don't worry @ it. I didn't mean to come between u. U don't have to worry. We will stay away. No reason for u to b jealous anymore. Like I said apparently I screw everything up. So again I'm sorry.
Tess - U just can't let me b happy...
To Tess - This wasn't about you. I tried to tell you something so Bill wldnt get his feelings hurt by perhaps future aloofness by them as he did nothing wrong. So maybe the invites wldnt be hurtful when they kept refusing. My fault. Shld have kept my mouth shut. I betrayed my best friends confidence. I won't say a word from now on.
Tess - Then why did they say they wanted to go out w/ us on the 27th or 28th to the v to hear that band and dance??
To Tess - I don't know. I guess I lied. Doesn't matter any more anyways.
Tess - I just feel like I am caught in the middle. I love you and. Love bill. I truly don't want any problems with anyone. I just want all of us to just get along just like a family should. I know bill likes you and bug. He doesnt want any problems between anyone. He just wants to belong. So do you have any suggestions on how to fix things.
To Tess - Not now. You didn't have to say a thing to her. You put her in a bad situation & me. I was just trying to avoid discomfort, but apparently I needn't have bothered. You can have fun the 27th. Apparently I was mistaken.
Tess - no they don't want anythg to do w/ us now. So like I said I screwed up again. We will no longer have anythg to do w/ them. Again I'm sorry I caused priblems I won't anymore.
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