Faith PJ Party & No Grad for Ian - 27 May 2010

May 27, 2010

Today, I took Faith to school. It was her pj / chocolate party. She got to finish the second 1/2 of her Charlie on Chocolate Factory. (And two other movies she said.) She came home with a truckload of chocolate. I am glad I sent the chocolate graham crackers instead, even if they mostly all came home!


Today should have been Ian's graduation. When Ian came home with Faith with his certificates & the invite I was sad. He asked what it was & I told him the invitation to his Graduation & you could see he was sad.



This evening we went to see Peggy. Talked @ his not helping very well at home, his dad, & suspension. I really like her.


I talked to Jim last week. Stress with Connor & him telling his father I was "treating him like crap", I asked if he wanted to get him earlier. Jim agreed with me paying for it all. He said he'd need $300, which would include $50 for the hotel when he arrived & to travel to & back. I put $100 in the account for him to drive. He immediately text me asking @ more money.


He called when he got to Dodge & asked for hotel money. He wouldn't be driving all the way, so I put $50 more in.


Jim text & asked to borrow $100 as he overspent. After I thought @ how much $ he had getting paid + the $200 I gave him to go back, I said no. It appeared the gas charges cleared to me & I saw no payments for bills. I guess he will have to deal with the result. His financial problems are not mine.

Well, Ian & Faith are both in bed & I am tired. Started my period which was a thrill after 5 years! Ugh. Boy that hysterectomy sounds good now!  Had to explain periods to my kids. Oh, boy. Nothing secret in this house! Guess I am just not the type. (Well, mostly!) Good night!

SMacLeod

P.S. I worked on Tess' cat enclosure & the cats have been happy as clams. I will have to write & the interesting things @ that!

25 May 2010

Faith had her awards today! One said "For the student who is always happy & shares with others. Way to go Faith" Mrs. Mumme The second one said "For being an Excellent Speller on Spelling & Sight word tests".

I went & sat next to Kerry & Hailey. Afterwards we walked home & she started to cry & Kerry & Masie going to the UK for a visit. She made them feel bad, so we went in for a while. Kerry & I chatted away.

Jim arrived. I gave him $100 more for the hotel & dinner with the kids. They also went swimming at his hotel. I didn't get out of the car. I let Jim get Connor's things & put them in his car.
During that time I went out to Dad's house to have dinner with Tess.  It was good & it was nice. 
I asked Jim to stop leaving messages on my cell. I hate retrieving them. Such a pain. He wrote some obnoxious texts @ my being mean. Oh well. I told him I didn't have to talk to him. He said I wasn't leaving a good example for my kids. Talk @ bad example? Hmm.
Ian stayed overnight with Connor & Jim. Faith came home with me. They had a nice time.

Faith & I had a nice quiet time at home that I miss.

More $ for Jim - 26 May 2010

Today I gave Jim $200 more! This is for the trip back to IA with Connor. He called @ 9 for me to pick up Ian at the park. I did, but Ian wasn't happy. Apparently, Jim said he would take them bowling, but because Connor didn't want to, they ended up at the park, which upset Ian. He lives to bowl with his dad. I need to get back to taking him.


Faith was at school. Today was Field Day, so Ian & I went home. We went to get Burger King together at lunch.


I was so tired I fell asleep (after Ian quit asking me questions J). Ian went to get Faith. She was crying. She said kids were making fun of her (older). Ian was upset that he wasn't there with her. He is a good big brother! J I felt bad. She cried quite a while; poor girl.

Faith's Award! - 25 May 2010

Faith had her awards today! One said "For the student who is always happy & shares with others. Way to go Faith" Mrs. Mumme The second one said "For being an Excellent Speller on Spelling & Sight word tests".


I went & sat next to Kerry & Hailey. Afterwards we walked home & Faith started to cry @ Kerry & Masie going to the UK for a visit. She made them feel bad, so we went in for a while. Kerry & I chatted away. 


Jim arrived. I gave him $100 more for the hotel & dinner with the kids. They also went swimming at his hotel. I didn't get out of the car. I let Jim get Connor's things & put them in his car.


During that time I went out to Dad's house to have dinner with Tess. It was good & it was nice.


I asked Jim to stop leaving messages on my cell. I hate retrieving them. Such a pain. He wrote some obnoxious texts @ my being mean. Oh well. I told him I didn't have to talk to him. He said I wasn't leaving a good example for my kids. Talk @ bad example? Hmm.


Ian stayed overnight with Connor & Jim. Faith came home with me. They had a nice time.


Faith & I had a nice quiet time at home that I miss.

Ian Suspension & Jim $ - 24 May 2010

Ian got suspended today. Last Friday he & a boy started a verbal argument that started on the playground. Ian said there was a teacher out there & he even threw a shoe at the boy. The boy was saying bad things to him. He was putting an L on his forehead with his fingers for "loser". He went in & told Mrs. Leon (which was a mistake). Mrs. Leon pulled the boy out of the bus line & showed him Ian's tear streaked face & told him to look at what his actions had done. The boy apologized & Ian said, "See what it means when I say, "I want to kill you"? Mrs. Leon reported that he just said the "I want to kill you" part which seems a bit different.

So, this am the principal called to expel Ian from the last week of school. I understand her point, but felt it was really crappy. He worked hard to catch up on his reading & was to go to the park for a celebration on Tues. Wed was to be field day & Thursday his graduation from the 5th gd going on to Middle School. He was sad off & on during the week.


Well, it is over now. (Thursday, May 27, 2010)


I talked to Jim last week. Stress with Connor & him telling his father I was "treating him like crap", I asked if he wanted to get him earlier. Jim agreed with me paying for it all. He said he'd need $300, which would include $50 for the hotel when he arrived & to travel to & back. I put $100 in the account for him to drive. He immediately text me asking @ more money.


He called when he got to Dodge & asked for hotel money. He wouldn't be driving all the way, so I put more money in.

Just another Day - 20 May 2010

Thursday, May 20, 2010


Connor has been increasingly defiant. When he is good there are few issues past normal child things. When it is not going his way & I try to get him to his room for his melt down, it is getting very difficult. He knows that he is big & heavy & to physically get him there, I have to work hard.


The reason it is best for him in his room is that it is clear of items to rip off of walls, things to break, etc. After a horrible fight between us yesterday, he was finally in his room, cursing at me. I went to mine & cried & prayed! After a bit Faith told me she found his screen in the yard, so I knew he had left.


He came home just as I was getting everyone in the car to go look. (Ian had already checked his friends' house down the alleyway.)


Everyone keeps telling me to send him to his father for a while over the summer. I am still not comfortable with this, despite it would give us all a break. The last time I talked to Jim @ needing to set up medical etc, instead of saying he'd work on it, he said, "Yeah, I can't handle it." Helpful.


I have come close to contacting him @ it, but just am not happy about it. I will be having surgery June 14a & am not sure Tess can handle things if Connor is here too. I will be in the hospital a couple of days & recovering at home after that. I can order from bed.


I feel guilty for the hard time I am having & I feel bad for the hard time he is having between Bi-Polar & teenage hormones! He is increasingly hurtful to his siblings. As much as you try to tell them why or to ignore it, it can help only so much.


Connor & Ian got in a "brotherly" fight last week. A bloody nose resulted.


Ian has been doing well. I don't have a lot of complaints really. He's had issues with school, but his school is the problem & that is about done now. Just being on his own is hard.